Positive parenting is a unique parenting style used by some private schools and at home in parenting which focuses on the positive aspects of good behavior rather than correcting faults. Often it is characterized by the belief that there are no evil kids, only bad and naughty behaviors. This can be a difficult concept for most parents to grasp. Fortunately, with this new positive parenting style the children are less likely to be abused and mistreated.
What exactly is positive parenting? Experts and researchers agree that positive parenting is effective, especially for young children who need their parents to set limits and stick by those rules. It allows children to take responsibility for their actions and learn how to deal with others. Many parents who practice positive parenting say it gives them more time to spend with their children and have meaningful interactions.
One of the positive parenting solutions that works well for some families is called the Five Factor Model. According to this style, parents use a five-pronged attack to discourage unwanted behaviors in their child. The first step is giving in to the child’s request to do something. Then there is the telling the child that he/she cannot because it is not ‘fair’, the second step being to offer a compromise, followed by the direct instruction of what to do (the final step).
One key component of positive parenting is being calm. When your child is having a negative experience and you respond by being angry, this teaches them to expect such behavior. Your words and actions are reinforced by the stress you feel and are likely to become more frequent. By responding in a calm and loving manner, you teach your child that he/she does not need to be negative. When you are calm and remain focused on helping the situation to get better, this reinforces the positive aspects of positive behavior and lessens negative reactions.
In early childhood, some parents work with special needs children by creating a special situation for them. For instance, parents can set up a special room or crib that is theirs alone or with a baby or toddler. This gives them a sense of belonging and gives them a safe place away from the chaos of the outside world. They learn to cope better with situations when they are left alone and also learn how to read when unsupervised. This positive parenting method is similar to the approach of leaving one’s home at a young age and being able to handle one’s own personal feelings and problems. It helps the child to grow up responsibly and to be able to look up to adults for guidance and approval.
The connection parenting strategy is also a positive parenting method that many parents use. With connected parenting, parents work with their children by putting them in touch with one another. Children are encouraged to talk to each other and feel like they have an important role in everything that happens. The connection is usually between parents and children and may involve other people, such as family members and friends. Parents and children may spend time together doing crafts, reading, watching movies, or enjoying each other’s company. This is a great opportunity for parents to bond with their children.
One of the most common methods parents use in the positive parenting method is through discipline. Parents are encouraged to take consistent and strong measures to discipline their children so that they can establish rules that are meaningful and that work to benefit the children. Although it can be hard to discipline children who are misbehaving, especially if they are not responding appropriately, by providing consequences parents can teach their children that what they are doing is wrong. When children are educated about what is expected of them, they are more likely to know what is expected of them in the future and to refrain from bad behavior that leads to serious consequences.
Another part of parenting is learning to reward good behavior and to discourage bad behavior. Although many parents use punishment to discourage bad behavior, some find that rewarding good behavior works much better because the child realizes they have been given a chance to do something good instead of being made to feel guilty for it. Positive parenting also involves making sure that you praise your child when they are successful and that you remind them of what they have done right when they are frustrated or angry. In the end, it simply makes sense to employ both positive parenting techniques as well as traditional parenting methods.